Thursday, July 12, 2007

Papers at SDA and Marina at Camp

Just got back to Kgrad from taking Marina to camp. We had considered staying
with her at the camp, but it is in the middle of the woods, no where near a
town or city. The director said we could stay, but given that I need
internet to continue to do my job and get a paycheck...there really was no
choice. The camp was nice enough though - basically an orphanage in the
woods - much like the once Katya is in, except Katya's camp is in a small
town, not in the woods.

Marina was beginning to miss her friends anyways, and was looking forward to
going to camp before leaving for America so she could play with her friends
for a bit. Thankfully the camp is about 40 km from Kgrad so we can visit her
more easily than we can visit Katya as Katya's camp is over 2 hours away by
car - 4 by bus.

We got the call yesterday morning from Masha that our paperwork was
submitted to the SDa for the final approval for court. Technically they have
5 working days to review and approve the paperwork, but Anatoliy and Masha
are going to call and bother them ever day in hopes that they will process
it by the end of this week ie tomorrow. That would mean court on Monday,
with the 10 days starting on Tuesday.

Ukraine is starting to annoy us - its quaint and novel the first few weeks
you are here. Now we just want to get the girls and go home. One of the
daily annoyances is the total lack of cold drinks at any of the mini markets
or street shops. Cold beer, of course - cold soda, juice or water, nowhere.
It is hot here - not hotter than Atlanta or even Florida, but there is
almost no airconditioning anywhere. Its not so bad if you stay in the shade
- on the minibuses its the worst.

Other than that, we are eating lots of icecream, and getting into a routine.
Internet cafe at the city center, lunch, shopping for food for the hotel
room, visiting friends we've made here in town, then back to the hotel. We
know which minibuses to take to the hotel, the city center, DendroPark,
Furshets, and the orphanage. We took Marina to Dendro park twice while we
had her with us - my dad will kill me when he sees the photos - he is an
engineer at Disney and never allowed me to go to those seasonal carnivals
with the rickety looking rides - and here I am a new parent and I'm letting
my daughter go on these rusty, rickety rides that look like they are from
some horror movie. But she had fun, and a whole afternoon there cost us $6
USD.

I will post photos again soon - its just a pain to sort through all the
hundreds we've taken and put the good ones on the memory stick and then have
the internet cafe guy plug in the stick (they won't let you plug it in
yourself)

Melissa

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Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Marina goes to camp

We got a call from the orphanage that we have to have Marina back at
Barvinok tomorrow night so they can get all her things together for camp.
Then we go to Barvinok the next morning and go to camp with her - maybe even
stay at the camp with her - that is up to the director of the camp.

Our papers also get submitted to the SDA for final court approval tomorrow,
so please pray that they will review these papers quickly and get us the
final ok in a day or 2- technically they have 5 days to review the regional
approvals. Once we get the SDa approval, we have court the very next day.

Once the 10 days are over then we go to the camps to pick up the girls (we
have to pay for this transport)

Thats one of the things that many people may not know about - all the little
costs during the trip - driving and delivering paperwork is considered an
"expediting fee" and therefore costs extra above the cost of our
facilitator....every trip to Katya's orphanage and district cost us $40-60,
plus paying the driver to wait. The mini buses go to these places, but the
buses take twice as long to get there as a car, and the trains take 4 times
as long. And since you are already in country they kinda have you trapped.
you pay, you have no choice. that kinda pissed my husband off. especially
when they dont tell you that you have to pay until the cost is already
accrued - ie they dont tell you ahead of time. other than that we are happy
with our facilitators - they do a good job.

Thankfully I speak enough Russian to get by here, and we have the phone
numbers of some students who speak English in Kgrad in case we need help -
other than that we are alone here in region. We take the mini buses
everywhere, rarely do we take a cab. 80 kopeks versus 10 grivna.

Melisa

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Friday, July 6, 2007

photos

here are the photos for those reading the blog. I guess the email upload function doesnt keep the photos attached









Photos

No updates since yesterday. Still in a holding patttern until court. Marina
goes to camp next week. Maybe we will get to stay with her there.

Here are some photos.

Melissa and Andrew

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Thursday, July 5, 2007

Lawyer cleaned us out

Well, things were going soooo well. Too well. So the lawyer in Kgrad had to
go and ruin it. She was demanding $4000 USD for her work on the court
paperwork. Every other family who had been through Kgrad recently had said
they paid around $1000-$1600. We talked her down to $1500 for the court
work, and $1000 for the passports ("expediting fees" since they CAN take up
to a month to process the passports, but she will get then in 20 minutes!).

Thankfully we got a great deal on an apartment - we are staying in the guest
house of Dr. Tkatch, a friend of Carola and Dieter, and we are only paying
$12 USD per night. It has a european toilet, shower, bathtub, and fridge,
and REALLLY comfy hospital beds. No clothes washer, but thats no problem -
the only problem is when we wash our clothes in the tub, there is no where
to hang them to dry. oh and no kitchen. so we eat lots of fruit, kolbasa,
cheese, bread, juice.....

There are two internet cafes in downtown kgrad - one by the main market in
the park with all the beer tents - Papa Andrew takes Marina over to a cafe
and gets her Fanta and icecream, and Mama Melissa goes to the internet cafe.
The other cafe is hotter and more crowded, so I think I will use this one
more.

Marina has to go to camp on July 12 - nothing we can do about it. The
orphanages must be emptied out so the caretakers can go on vacation. Galine,
the assistant direcvtor of marina's orphanage is talking to the director of
the camp to see about marina remaining with us in kgrad though, so that is a
possibility. Otherwise, we can stay at the camp with her, or stay at dr
tkatch's guest house and visit her at camp - the camp is like 20 minutes
away. Katya's camp on the other hand is 2 hours away. After the 10 day wait,
we can pick her up there though. We visited Katya yesterday so she could
write out her petition agreeing to be adopted. We even bought her new shoes
and hair bows. She said she would save them for that night's disco, so she
could show them off.

Marina also did her petition, we did a bunch of running around, more
paperwork etc. All the papers will be in the lawyers hands by tonight, and
then they will be submitted to the local "rada" for approval on Monday. The
official local approval conclusions will be ready that same Monday, and then
they will be submitted to the SDA for final approval for court on Wednesday
(SDA only accepts these petitions for court on M, W, and F). The SDA has up
to 5 working days to review the petitions, but Nena and Masha think they can
use Anatoliy (who submitted our dossier) to prod them a bit and get it done
in 1-2 days. The very next day we can have court. So, current timeline puts
us getting home in early August unfortunately - the first week at the
latest, hopefully the end of July though, if everyone prays really hard and
crosses their fingers and toes for us.

Please also pray that we can find the money to get home.

We promise to post photos tomorrow. We've just taken SOOOO many, we need to
go through them before getting to the internet cafe.

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Monday, July 2, 2007

Inspectors and tons of paperwork

We have been enjoying having Marina with us the past few days, and received
permission from the director to keep Marina with us when the Germans leave
to go back to Germany this Thursday. This weekend we spent visiting the aunt
and uncle, and Katya at her orphanage. Katya left for summer camp this
morning, but the camp is only 50 km away from the orphanage, so it will be
no problem for us to pick her up once the paperwork is filed. I will write
about the aunt and uncle later....

Sunday we took Marina to Center Park here in Kgrad - its kinda like a
permenant carnival with rides and little cafes - like a smaller version of
Hydropark in Kiev. Marina and Andrew had a great time going on all the
rides! In total it cost us under $10 USD for the day. Dad, I think we have a
roller coaster junky on our hands! Marina loves the "big and fast" rides :)

Today we spent going to see all the inspectors, lawyers and directors,
getting the needed papers to file for court. We should have all that
finished tomorrow, and have the papers for the SDA. The SDA then has up to 5
days to process those before we can have court, but Nena thinks we can get
it in a day or so. Then court, then maybe 10 day wait, then
home.....meanwhile, we continue to wake up to Marina covering our faces in
kisses!

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Thursday, June 28, 2007

Update on our status

Ok, this computer lab does not want to see our word document i typed up for
this update, so i will synposize a bit

we got referrals for both Marina and Katarina - they found Katya's papers no
problem. the appointment lasted 15 minutes, they asked no questions, and
even helped us with Oksana's paperwork. They even gave us the referral
papers the same day - only 2 hours after our appointment. So, we don't have
to wait until monday to begin the process, we can start today. We leave kyiv
tomorrow morning and go straight to Marina\s orphanage to pick her up - Mila
the director gave Carola and Dieter permission for Marina to stay with us in
our apartment in Kirovograd. Saturday we will go to the aunt and uncle's
house in Znamenka and see Katya and talk to the aunt to make sure she isnt
going to cause problems for the court. Then we go to Pantievka on Saturday
also to get permission for Katya to stay with us in Kgrad. Monday we have
our official meeting with the district social workers and the orphanage
directors. We also meet with the Kgrad court lawyer that day. We should get
court quick and may even be able to get the 10 days waived if the aunt
testifies in court that she does not object tothe adoption. (which is the
point of the 10 days - for people to object). The aunt is the only relative
of the girls.

We tried getting an internet dial up card to use with our laptop in the
apartment in Kyiv, but the lines are always busy. Hopefully in Kgrad we will
have more luck.

Side note, the Cunninghams got a good referral on the first try too - we saw
them when we picked up our paperwork Wendesday afternoon. And a single man
from the USA who has been waiting outside the SDA for 2 months got his
dossier submitted and got an appointment. The USA line outside the SDA for
dossier submission is nearing 340 at this point just for those waiting to
submit. Many facilitators have multiple places in line though and no
dossiers, and I know of one who has a place at number 71 in line if anyone
needs a place. She is going to be our facilitator in Kgrad since Masha is
nursing her 6 month old baby still and cant be away from him for long.

Melissa and Andrew

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Tuesday, June 19, 2007

2 days until we fly out of the USA

So the count down has begun....

We have a few more things to do - and we are starting to realize that we will be leaving our home for a month. We go out to dinner and say "Wow, this is the last time we will be able to eat here for more than a month" - weird I know, but its the simple things you miss when you are away from home. For me it will be Target and my favorite Thai restaurant.

Going to get my last Target "fix" today - one of the duffel bags I bought was the wrong size, so I need to get a bigger one.

Also need to go to the bank today to cash all the gift and loan checks and clear out the savings account. I've been avoiding logging on to my bank account, afraid that all my money has disappeared or something. I know it hasn't, but the anxiety is still there.

Had to drive to the FedEx main office to pick up the envelope with my loan check in it from my aunt and godfather. I got there as they opened the doors, and still was late getting back for my meeting at work - 11 miles from FedEx to my office and it took over 45 minutes. Welcome to Atlanta! haha

I'm really nervous about carrying that much cash out of the bank. I'm not worried about the bills being brand new - we've never had a problem in Ukraine with that before - in fact we had more problems with the new bills since the design has changed - many exchange booths didn't know about this change and didn't want to accept the new bills. After I get the cash, I'm going to put it in labeled envelopes (thanks for the idea Beth T.!) so we don't accidentally spend our kids visa money or anything.

In good money news, I talked to my credit card company yesterday and they raised my credit limit by $300 for this trip! Its not alot, but every bit helps.

Heard from our friend George in Ukraine - I had him call the girls uncle to let him know about the FedEx package I sent to his home for Belle's birthday. He told George that the director of Cinderella's orphanage wouldn't let her visit with them, and that both girls were going to "camp" on July 2. I find that odd since I know that Cinderella's director KNOWS we are coming and said she pulled her name from the hosting list....Belle's director on the other hand....the phone is still dead so we can't get in touch with her. But since our appointment at the SDA is on June 27, I assume the SDA will call the orphanages to let them know we are coming, and tell the directors to pull the girls from the hosting/camp lists.

Monday, June 18, 2007

Calm and Nervous



So, we are not in melt down mode anymore thankfully. Our aunt and godfather loaned us the money and fedex'd the check here. It should be arriving at our apartment complex front office any minute now. I'll go to the bank tomorrow and cash that check, the gift checks I have, and cash out our savings account. In total we will have 8K in cash approx.

We also are going to continue getting our full salaries while we are gone - so the bills will get paid and we will have money to spend in Ukraine. I still have to call the bank and credit card company and let their fraud department know about our trip - so they don't freeze our account! I bet it would seem odd to them to suddenly see charges from Ukraine! Plus, this helps protect us from fraud, since the card company will know that any charges after our return date are probably not us, therefore rejecting those charges.

Got prescriptions refilled last night. Parents visit went great and Mr. Harry went home to Florida with them.

Did have a minor emergency last night - our pet sitter bailed on us last minute. Though I could easily find another pet sitter in Atlanta, I really trusted this woman, and she was willing to visit our kitties on the schedule we wanted and she charged us far less than the standard sitters do. If we had to use a regular phone book sitter, it would have cost us double what we planned on spending. Thankfully, our good friend from MedShare agreed to come over and check on the kitties every few days for us. She and her hubbie will definately be getting a BIG bottle of vodka from us!

Things left to do:
Clean up house after parents visit
Go to bank and get money into labeled envelopes
Finish last bit of packing
Get laptop set up for trip (for work, for watching DVDs, link to blog and email etc)

Thursday, June 14, 2007

Having a Melt Down

I am totally in melt down mode right now. Our budget for the adoption trip is far too tight for my sanity and I'm hoping that my favorite aunt and Godfather will be able to draw up the emergency loan paperwork.

I am also going to talk to my parents this weekend about the possibility of their help if something goes wrong when we are in Ukraine, financially. I'm not worried about anything else really. We've been to Ukraine, stayed there for extended periods of time, can speak enough Russian to get by, and know our kids. Paperwork doesn't scare me.

The big unknown for me is the airplane tickets for the trip home. Someone who is there now was quoting $6000 for return tickets. I know that that is just a number, and I have no clue how many people they are buying tickets for, where they are flying to, what class they are flying, what airline etc. But I still freak out.

We live in Atlanta, a major airline hub. So, airfare is generally less to/from here. Our one way ticket to Germany were only $600 each. Based on other people's experiences, I was making my estimates based on the assumption that #1 kids cost less to fly, and #2 airfares purchased in ukraine are cheaper. We didn't by round trip tickets for two reasons - #1 we are flying into Frankfurt and out of Kyiv and #2 we knew that most airlines charged you a ton of fees to change your flight, sometimes people end up just buying a whole new ticket.

Arggghhhhhh! I need a happy pill. Or a beer. Or both :) I don't know how I am going to survive the next week.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Real Parents

I saw this quote in another Ukrainian AP's blog and liked it, so I'm copying it here:

Natural Child: Any child who is not artificial.
Real Parent: Any parent who is not imaginary.
Your Own Child: Any child who is not someone else's child.
Adopted Child: A natural child, with a real parent, who is all my own.
--- Rita Laws PhD

Really sums it all up.





Someone asked about if/where we were registered for "Welcome home" gifts for our girls. We aren't registered anywhere and probably won't. One of my few coping behaviors during this 2 year wait has been "nesting" for my future daughters. They have everything and more that they will need for many years to come LOL. I have tons of clothes, toys, books, educational games, bikes, car booster seats (for the younger 2), furniture, linens etc.

What we have always needed the most help with is the cost of the trip itself. All the above mentioned things were bought slowly over time. The adoption trip itself is a huge amount of cash, all at once. Thankfully, we have a wonderful aunt and uncle who had the ability to give us a monetary gift to help with this, and we were able to build up a bit of a savings account. We also have a small credit card. All of the other adoption costs have been slow and over time, so we've had no problems paying all that, its this all-at-once-trip-cost that is freaking us out.

We've been blessed with the offer of a personal loan from the same aunt and uncle, should we need it, and with cooperative and understanding employers who have worked out a way for both Andrew and I to get our full salaries while on the adoption trip. Bully for us.

Also, since we are not using an agency and are using a cool facilitator, we are saving alot of money there. We are also flexible and easy to please people, so we will have no problems in country with our accommodations, no matter how "soviet-style" they are. Our last two week trip to Ukraine cost less than $800 which included our apartments, a translator with us everyday, sight seeing, drivers, train tickets - everything but the airline tickets.

We may end up being in Ukraine a little longer than we had hoped, as I learned that June 28th is a Ukrainian holiday and most of the government offices will be closed June 28 and 29 for the long holiday weekend. Which means the SDA may not issue our official referral to the girls until July 2. I guess that will be ok as we are planning on visiting SnowWhite during the holiday weekend, so that will mean less traveling if we stay in Kyiv until the weekend, then head to the girls region July 1.

Friday, June 8, 2007

Final preparations


So, we aren't getting anywhere about Belle's paperwork, so we will have to just deal with it once we get to Ukraine. Masha is still working on it, but as the phones to the orphanage are broken, its no use for us to keep trying to call there to get info.

One funny thing I found out - the director of Cinderella's orphanage, when speaking to Masha, said that she knew someone was coming to adopt Cinderella, but she wasn't sure if it was "the Americans or the Germans" - I guess we confused her by tag-teaming her with phone calls LOL since "the Germans" and us are now working together!

So, I have a few more things to pack, the clothes are washed and ready to be packed away, travel sized soaps and shampoos are purchased, and I went to Sams Club to get a big 4 pack of single use cameras and a big pack of Lithium batteries for our digital camera. Our biggest problem on our last trip to Ukraine was finding "good" batteries that actually worked - I swear that the shops were repackaging dead batteries and selling them to us stupid Americans. The only batteries that I could find that would work were Energizer brand for high tech devices, and they only sold those in the big western-style stores like Furshets and MegaMarket.

My parents are coming up from Florida the weekend of the 16th to see us off - they are going to take our dog, Harry, with them back to Florida and I'm putting together a packet of info for them - copies of our passports, a list of contacts they may need, and a general itinerary of where we will be and when. We are also giving them a key to our home and one of our swipe cards to get in the gate to the complex. My parents are going to come back up to open up the house and stock the fridge a few days before we return (they will probably head up at the same time we are headed back to Kyiv for the Embassy meetings).

Also meeting with the cat sitter that weekend. She is an awsome chick - we've known each other a long time, and she watched the cats last time we were in Ukraine. She always cuts us a deal too since she knows we are adopting. So, we also have to give her a packet of info in case anything happens with our kitties, get her a key and swipe card for the gate.

Only things left to do is finish cleaning up the house, finish packing, and set up the laptop (install games, put links to the webpages we will need to access for work etc)- oh and finish putting together the photo album for the SDA and judge to look at.

Poll: What do you want me to post about?

Hi all,

I read about 10 blogs of other adoptive parents every day, and some I like and some I don't....some people babble on for paragraphs about their sight seeing and food, others complain about everything, some spend half their post "talking" to specific people back home. IMO, I don't particularly like these things nor find them helpful or useful.

Our blog's purpose is to let our family and friends back home know what is going on with our adoption. I try not to post too much extraneous news or info about the rest of our life. If I need to ask someone a question, I will email them privately.

So, to you our reading audience, I wanted to know if there is anything in particular you like and don't like to see in these types of adoption blogs. What do you want me to mention and write about during our trip? I know most of us use these blogs to prepare for our own eventual trips and garner some sort of sense of what to expect when we travel and how our own appointment and trip will go. For example, while I love to read a good blog about a family adopting a toddler on a "blind" appointment, I tend to more closely follow and read the blogs about people adopting older kids, and/or known kids, as that is the type of adoption we are doing, therefore those blogs are more helpful for us to estimate how our trip will go.

Thursday, June 7, 2007

No news on Belle's paperwork

Received an email from our facilitator and a Ukrainian friend of mine, both confirmed that the orphanage's phone is broken. So, we can't get in contact with the director to find out about Belle's paperwork.

Masha talked to the "lawyer" in Kirovograd, but I'm not sure which lawyer she means, and I don't think this lawyer has found out anything. But, Masha is a genious and I totally trust her - if it can be done, she will get it done.

Of course, I'm in freak out mode. Thank God for Clonapin. I don't really have any more trip-related errands to run, so I'm trying to keep busy with little tasks I should have already done, like setting up our laptop for the trip, compiling a contact list for people we want to visit or call when we are in Ukraine, packing....

Andrew and I aren't sleeping well, and not eating well, and we are both really nervous about our SDA appointment and getting BOTH girls out of there. I know we will be fine though - we've spent 2 weeks in Ukraine before, so this is just a bit longer, but we are still worried about money mostly - money we will have to pay in Ukraine and our paychecks/jobs back home. Every time I do my calculations I know we have enough money, but there is always that nagging "what if" in the back of my mind saying that we should have a bigger buffer, we should have more money on us "just in case."

Thankfully the girls are visiting at their Aunt and Uncle's home nearby the orphanages, so at least they are getting to spend some quality time with their relatives and each other before the chaos starts.

Tuesday, June 5, 2007

Prayers and Good Thoughts Needed!


All,

I just heard back from our awsome facilitator with preliminary news about Belle's paperwork...not good news so far, but its not totally hopeless yet. One person at the SDA that she talked to said that they had NO file on Belle at all, so they could not tell me when she would be available for adoption. Our facilitator also contacted the lawyer in Belle's region who handles registrations and adoptions and the woman agreed to research it and call her back with more info tonight.

Please pray that they will find Belle's paperwork and that the SDA will make an exception to let us adopt Belle as she will be 14 years old this summer and will never be adopted by a Ukrainian family.

If they do not find her paper work, one of two things could happen - they could let us get her registered, let us adopt Cinderella, and then come back for Belle later, or they can deny us both sisters since we cannot adopt them together at the same time. The letter from the SDA made it sound like we could adopt Cinderella without her sister, but the orphanage director says it is not possible to seperate them. I hope we don't have to - my hope is that we can bring them BOTH home on this trip. If not, we need to at least bring Cinderella home and sign something promising to come back for Belle.

My husband is a total wreck about this; having nightmares and not sleeping. He said the other day "maybe this would have been easier if we didn't know the kids we were trying to adopt" and I told him that this would be difficult either way and that the only thing that has kept ME going is the faces of MY kids and the promise I made to them in my heart. If I didn't already "know" my kids, I would have thrown in the towel on Ukrainian adoptions months ago.

Thursday, May 31, 2007

Worrying news

Three weeks and counting until we leave for our trip and we receive a letter in the mail yesterday from the SDA saying that two of our girls are not "on the database for foriegners to adopt" - Belle and SnowWhite. Well, Snowwhite we knew about, but we wanted official confirmation. Belle we were surprised about. The SDA confirmed that Cinderella is available and ready to go, but her full blooded sister is not.

My husband is freaked out. He is interpreting the "unofficial English translation" included differently than I am. Maybe I'm just more used to reading between the lines of Ukrainian documents? I see the statement as saying that the girls are just not available to foriegners (ie they are still in their one year "waiting" period), but my husband sees it as "they are not registered at all." Either situation is possible, but since the letter specifically mentioned "available to foriengers" I am thinking that they ARE available to Ukrainians, thus in their one year wait period...

The mothers rights were terminated sometime before 2002, actively, by the father during a divorce proceeding. But, Belle was in Russia with bio mom when this was ruled on. Sometime in 2002, bio dad had Cinderella taken away from him. She was placed in a shelter in December 2002, and registered for adoption in January 2003. She was available to foriegners in January 2004.

What I think happened to Belle is this: Belle's mom's rights were terminated, but dad's weren't since she wasnt physically living with him when Cinderella was taken away. Dad still had rights. Meanwhile, in Russia, mom had kids taken away by Russian government (Belle and her new half brother). Belle was put in a Russian orphanage, and baby half brother gets adopted to America. Eventually (year unknown??) Belle was transfered back to Ukraine. Dad died in November 2005, thus leaving Belle with no parents, and she was registered at that point (probably 2-3 months after dad's death). So.....no she would not have been available in January 2007, but she should be available by now if she was registered on the national database in early 2006.

Please pray that this is the case!

We have our "friends" in Ukraine looking into this situation, trying to get updated info from the SDA (since this letter was 6 months old) and info from the orphanage director about Belle's paperwork.

Thursday, May 24, 2007

Got our appointment letter copy


Finally got a scanned copy of our appointment letter! Not that we were really worried (yeah right!), but it's nice to SEE the appointment date and our registration number. Our registration number is in the late 500's and it was assigned on March 28, 2007 according to the letter. Reading the English translation of the appointment letter is funny though - it was obviousely translated by someone at the SDA who is not fully fluent in English and so parts of it are confusing.

It does say that we should call and confirm our "arrival" but I am not sure if this means they want us to call them when we actually arrive in Ukraine or if they want us to confirm that this appointment date is acceptable to us before we travel....

The part of even more debate in the Ukrainian Adoption community is the final paragraph of the letter concerning the ages of available children...here is a word for word reprint of this paragraph from OUR letter:

"At the same time we are writting to inform you that considerable part of children available for adoption are older than 5-6 years and have some problems with health. The overwhelming majority of them have siblings and their seperation from each other is not allowed. We request you take into consideration these facts when planning the visit to Ukraine."

Finally, the letter is signed by the deputy director of the SDA, who I assume was the acting director at the time - Mr. Grytsenko.

Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Doctors Appointments- check

So, I have the girls many doctors appointments set up for when we get back. Many of the adoption medicine doctors book up a year in advance, so I figured I'd go ahead and get all the appointments on the books before we leave. Thankfully we have the girls names and birthdates, and we know approximately when we will be back in the US with them.

So all the appointments so far are for the second week of August - that will give us some flex time in our return dates, and give the girls time to settle in and get into a new routine. School here starts August 13, but I doubt we will be able to get the girls all registered before that date - too much paperwork is required by schools nowadays!

Plus we want Cinderella to go to a different school than we are zoned for - its still in our district and not far away, but it still requires some forms to be filed and people to sign off on the "transfer." The girls will be going to a full immersion English program, provided by the school district, for the first 6-9 weeks. This program teaches them not only the English language, but the culture and customs of the American classroom.

So far we have scheduled:
dentist appointments for both girls with a TLC dentist who specializes in fearful patients
general pediatric appointments with a Russian speaking EE adoption specialist
gynecology visit for Belle - she is 14 and we assume she has started her period, and we have no clue if she has been sexually active. better to get her checked out now for STDs, and get her on birth control (to regulate her periods)

I put in a request with the Marcus Institute's International Adoption clinic, more for developmental/educational testing, but they are booked through October. Since I know the doctor though, her nurses are going to try and stick us in a cancellation appointment in August, but we won't know that date until the day of most likely.

Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Max


So we are just about done unpacking at our new place. We have a few stray boxes with misc junk in them, some pictures to be hung up and some laundry to do and we should be just about settled.

The girls room is looking nice too. Since its a rental apartment, we can't paint the walls, but I think I've been doing nicely with fabric, rugs, bed linens and such to bring some color to the room. The "surfer girl" theme seems to be coming together - I have a quilt for one of the beds, and I'm working on the second; we have beach towels hung over the end of the beds, sand buckets for trash bins, tie-dyed curtains....we also finally got the second mattress for the bunk beds.

We wanted the girls to share a room since they are used to sleeping in one big room with 8 other kids (or more) and we thought it would not only help with their adjustment, but also to rebuild their sister-bond; they've been seperated for 5 years now and only seen each other once or twice since then.

Getting that mattress home was hilarious. We've had NO rain for weeks now. We have a 9 inch deficit in Georgia. There are wildfires in the south part of the state. We go to get a mattress and plan on carrying it home on the roof of our little car.....it monsoons. Thankfully the guy at the shop had double bagged the mattress and tied it down tight. We drove slow with the hazard lights on and got home fine, but we can only imagine what we must have looked like to the other drivers.

After the mattress fiasco, we were going to go do some work at MedShare. We were stopped at a redlight just blocks from MedShare (not exactly in a good part of town mind you) and Andrew looks over and sees this 6 week old kitten (tiny tiny) splayed out on the sidewalk, panting for dear life, drool and goo oozing from its little mouth. Its not really moving around, but appears awake and alert. Being the chivalrous knight he is, Andrew leaps from the car (thankfully the light had only just turned green, so no cars were moving yet) and runs to the kitten. I put on the hazard lights (boy they are getting a work out!) and pull off onto the curb (there was no where to pull in at, so I just jumped the curb onto the sidewalk a few meters down from the kitten). Andrew brings this poor pathetic looking kitten into the car, its spitting and hissing, but also nuzzling into Andrew's arm. We drive as fast as we can to our vet's office, calling ahead first, stopping only to get some water for the kitten. Andrew tries to get the kitten to drink some water that he poured from the bottle into an empty Altoids can (he rinsed it first), but the kitten just is too dehydrated to even drink.

We get to the vet office and they say we will have to wait for 1 1/2 hours to see a doctor since we are a walk in. The kitten is looking better, and the vet techs give us some fresh water and a feeding syringe and we get the little bugger to drink about 20 ccs of water. On the drive over we decided to name him "Max" (or Maximus as Andrew calls him) as in Mad Max Road Warrior - he was found on the side of the road and he was hissing and spitting.....seems fitting. We finally see the doctor and she takes his temp and check his hydration level, while I tell her the story and then point out that Max isn't really using his back legs. Big Red Flag! to the doctor. Max was probably THROWN out a car window onto the sidewalk and maybe broke his spine or his pelvis! Sometimes I really hate the human species. We obviousely can't afford to pay the medical bills of a stray kitty, so she offers to pay for his treatments out of a "foundation" they have at the clinic. She goes off to call and get the ok to do that, and then comes back and outlines what she is going to do - first feline leukemia test (no sense in treating him is he has this - they would just put him to sleep if he was positive), then xrays and then other regular treatments and tests.

Andrew and I were so sad to leave him there, but we knew that even if they had to euthanize Max, it would be a more humane death than dying of thirst or getting hit by a car. But, I called the vet today and Max is doing fine. Just a broken leg and some dehydration. His little leg is in a splint now and we are going to visit him this afternoon.

Friday, May 4, 2007

A little about us

I realized the other day how many friends I have made through our adoption journey, but that none of us really know much about each other beyond adoption-related news. So, I thought I’d write up a little bio about Andrew and me to pass the time.

Melissa: I was born in Detroit Michigan in 1978. My family moved to Orlando Florida when I was 4 because my dad got a job working for Disney- he still works there, 25 years later (he will be a hit with the girls – free Disney tickets! LOL). My parents are “bikers” – ie they have a really nice motorcycle that they ride on the weekends, they go to Bike Week in Daytona every year, and have been riding motorcycles since before I was born. My dad even drove us to school on the motorcycle as a “treat.” My parents listen to “rock” music – mostly Aerosmith, Metallica, Pink Floyd, Van Halen etc. and they listened to this VERY LOUDLY while I was growing up. Everyone in my family has tattoos. My sister is “winning” right now with the largest % of body coverage. Don’t go making assumptions based on stereotypes now – my parents were awesome, responsible parents. They were tough on us, very involved in our lives and school, very open about discussing sex, drugs, alcohol, and they knew every single one of our friends. As a kid my favorite things were unicorns, music, and art. I actually attended an art school for awhile and won many local art contests and had my artwork displayed at two major area art museums. When I got into middle and high school I was what people considered a “punk” or a “goth.” I dyed my hair a dozen different colors (mostly purples, but sometimes platinum white, sometimes blue), wore mostly black, wore black lipstick and nail polish and even got my belly button pierced at age 15 (Mom took me) and then my nose pierced when I was 18. I was on the math team, honor roll, in all AP classes, editor in chief of the yearbook, and I was in the Colorguard (flag team) in our marching band. I graduated high school in the top 10 of my class with a 4.7 GPA (AP classes). I finished my BS in Microbiology and Cell Science at UF in Gainesville in 3 years, and minored in Sociology and Chemistry. In 1999 I moved to Atlanta to go to grad school at Emory. In 2002 I got my Masters in Epidemiology (think disease epidemics, not dermatology/skin). I’ve been working at the CDC ever since and I am currently a government contractor for CDC in the Global AIDS Program.

Andrew: Born in Savannah Georgia in 1973 and raised mostly by his single mom. His mom was/is a “free spirit” or “hippie” so she moved around a lot and he grew up mostly in Florida where his mom worked for the Florida Bible College. When he was 13 his mom married his step-dad. His step dad adopted him soon after that. Andrew also got a step/adoptive brother and sister from this marriage. His sister is mentally retarded due to brain damage resulting from long-time epilepsy. His brother died in a boating accident when Andrew was 17. Andrew was also a “punk” in high school – he had a Mohawk haircut,
listened to Billy Idol, Dead Milkmen, Jane’s Addiction, and They Might Be Giants and wore leather jackets and combat boots. He went to college for a year, and then joined the Navy. He was briefly married at this time (less than one year), and after the birth of his first son Matt, his ex-wife disappeared. He was remarried shortly after that, and he and his second wife raised Matt and his second son, Sebastian for 10 years before they finally divorced. His sons are currently 15 and 14 yrs old. After 12 years in the Navy, he left his military life for a job in the private sector. While in the military he served as a Navy Corpsman, mostly in Navy Hospitals, as a Neurophysiologist. He was also advisor to the Surgeon General of the
Navy for Neurophys, was an instructor at the Navy Neurophys school and was captain of the Navy Honor Guard. He also played on the Navy rugby team and continues to play and coach rugby today. Andrew was also active in a local Roman history re-enactment group in the DC area – they dressed up in Roman armor and re-enacted Roman battles. He still has his Roman armor (he pounded out the steel himself and made the armor) on display in our home, next to his collection of medieval melee weapons (swords, maces, axes – think Lord of the Rings LOL) – he plans on using these weapons to “intimidate” any boys who come to try and date our girls haha. Andrew is currently the Director of Clinical Neurophysiology for Emory University Healthcare, working primarily with epilepsy patients like his sister.

Andrew and I met 5 years ago through a mutual friend, and were married 2.5 years ago in a small, last minute, unplanned wedding at his aunt and uncle’s home in Barnesville Georgia. We decided that our money would be better spent on other things than a big wedding. We still listen to the same music as we did in high school, and still dress casual “punk” outside of work. We consider ourselves to be religious/spiritual scholars – we don’t claim any single religion as our own, but we respect and study all religions. We plan on bringing the girls to a Unitarian Universalist church here in Atlanta so as to respect and honor whatever religious beliefs they already have. We also acknowledge the other “community” benefits of belonging to some sort of church and UUCA has many adopted kids from all over the world so the girls should feel comfortable there.

We enjoy camping and hiking, shopping at IKEA, and reading. Our favorite TV shows are LOST, Jericho, Law and Order, CSI and Star Trek. Favorite movies are Boonedock Saints, Moulin Rouge, and Star Wars. We do a lot of volunteer work, mostly helping Ukrainian orphanages, but also with a group called MedShare here in Atlanta that collects unused medical supplies from around the US, sorts and boxes them up and sends them FREE OF CHARGE to countries in need. We help them mostly with their Neurology stuff.